Take your time to explore your sexuality and what being gay might mean to you.If you think you might be gay, it’s important that you: There is no test or questionnaire you can complete that will answer this question for you. Although there is no right or wrong answer to the question, a possible reason suggested by researchers is that we are born with our sexual orientation. There is no real explanation as to why some men are gay and others are not. There are gay men in every culture and every country.This can often cause feelings of isolation for young men who are gay and make them scared to show their sexuality. There is a lot of pressure from society for young men to be heterosexual or ‘straight’. Men who go on to describe themselves as ‘same-sex attracted’ or ‘gay’ have a strong physical and emotional attraction to men that they don’t usually feel for women. This is often a normal part of exploring their sexuality. About gay male sexualityMany men report that they had experiences with people of the same sex when they were young.